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Not for Everybody

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When on large scale projects, it can be challenging to keep everyone that wants to be involved engaged and actively participating. I have found that some just want to sit in and be aware… at least thats what they think at 1st. I watch as they work on other things during the meeting, adding no true value as time goes along. Some become distractions while others simply take up space making it hard to find meeting rooms. As a practice, Im working on only scheduling those key team members who have an active role in the project. Everyone else can get an email featuring a weekly recap or attend a periodic roundtable discussion or information sharing session. Couples experience this on a personal level as well. Starting out, we want to be involved in everything. Then over time we sit while our mates do what they do and we watch the time like eagles scouting prey. Waiting and praying that we can leave. We scroll through social media post on our phone, quickly making Pinterest stats grow by the second. Sometimes we get snappy with our replies out of pure frustration of feeling left alone while our people network, host and do their jobs. I begin to only invite friends when I knew I wasn’t going to be working events. It became too stressful over time. I can’t count the number of times Ive been asked to leave early because the person I attended with was tired or simply ready to go. I mean I sat the bench for years on the football team because I couldn’t contribute on the field during games. When I got tired of being the hitting dummy during practice, I quit and became better at art and eventually got a full scholarship to college… So every meeting, every event, every situation is not for everybody. It can be difficult but really get to know your audiences and mates so that you can adequately determine if an event is a good fit for them. Be honest and truthful yet patient and kind in your response. #8robinsons #rootedinlove

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Yearly Health Screenings

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So I did not eat after 7pm last night. I made it all the way until 8:30am the next day and thought… “a piece of gum cant hurt”…. only to find out that I would have to start the process over again and try tomorrow morning. 🙁 It seems that anything with sugar in can alter testing results, which I should have known. Hey don’t judge me! I haven’t eaten since yesterday. Not to mention I just walked from the 2nd floor up to the 14th because elevators are too packed this time of the morning. So Im back at my desk breathing hard with my heart beating super fast, disappointed at myself for wanting to have minty breath during my screening. lol! The nurse was so sweet though like, “Baby you cant do this today, you got gum in your mouth. Is that sugar free? No? Well you gone have to come back tomorrow baby…”. In some ways I felt like my mom had just fussed at me and I may have imagined a tear to showing up in that moment. I had done wrong. I broke a rule and those that know me, know that I really don’t like breaking them. So i will now have to fast 2 days in a row. I really do appreciate employers that have this available. When I was married my wife would literally have to make appointments for me and afterwards, there was a period where I avoided doctors all together. When employers invest in your health, they motivate employees to get fit and stay fit. On campus work out facilities and discounted gym memberships are a huge benefit. Ive always been taught that “my health = my wealth”. The moment my health fails, it limits my ability to earn for my family and ultimately for my legacy. I would love to retire and have the type of health that allows me to travel and have an adventures life after 65! So here is to second chances and another 12 hour fast… #8robinsons #rootedinlove

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Love Yourself

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For Valentines Day this year I want to see more people love themselves. I would love it if couples would allow each other to do something for themselves as well as for each other. Like really put some thought into what you want and get yourself something. Buy yourself the most thoughtful card you can find and sign it to yourself. lol! I come across so many broken people on a daily basis (including myself) where they just need to take a moment and appreciate themselves. Celebrate another year of life, whether its your birthday or not. Look in a mirror and say thank you for keeping it together. Thank you for being strong enough to go through the fire and come out shining! Smile at yourself and appreciate your ability to love others as you love yourself. Give yourself Kudos for the projects you keep afloat at your jobs each week. Take yourself out to a nice lunch and order a specialized drink. Take a moment this year and praise yourself. Boost your ego, grow your confidence and feel amazed for simply being alive! Buy you a pair of boots and look around as you stand taller than if in flat bottom shoes. Look around and stare at the trees and the sky and the architecture around you. Get a real feel of the miracle of “Life”. This is how your year should start! Im going to check back in around Valentines Day and see if any of you accomplished this! #8robinsons #rootedinlove

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The Power of To-Do-Lists

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I continue to learn the value of creating lists. Whether done before bed or first thing each morning, they can drastically increase ones productivity. Whether you are a housewife or a C-level executive, your day is filled with both simple and complex tasks. I tried using mobile apps which failed quickly. The digital footprint was never as strong as the hand written note to self. There is something powerful and strong about a hand written memo. Something majestic about an itemized list to self. Each time I strike through a line item, i smile and feel a sense of accomplishment. I don’t care whether you are 8 or 82yrs old, it feels wonderful to finish something you set out to do. It feels empowering to strike through an entire list by the end of a day. For those moments that I can not complete the entire list, those items roll over into the next day. Those days that I forget find me aimlessly floating from meeting to meeting just trying to get through the day. In my world success has to be strategic. Every move is calculated as if there is no such thing as blind luck. Every lesson is learned and documented. Every list is analyzed for efficiency. Im not as disciplined as I would like to be, so there are days and weeks and months where I fail. Then I wake up and remember how much more productive I can be if I would only take a moment to plot my day out before starting.. #8robinsons #rootedinlove

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Planting Confidence

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Confidence often separates success from failure. It feels like it starts when a person wakes up in the morning and follows them throughout the day and the weeks and the months and the years. As long as it stays on and intact, a person can accomplish nearly everything they imagine within reason of course. Ive hired many people over the years and there is a clear difference between those that are confident and those that second guess every thought and every decision. They dont always stand out from day one, but they do not fail assignments easily. I learned from them. Everything about them was sure. Even when they were wrong they shared valid arguments. I watched these individuals move up promotion after promotion. The confidence was often linked to upbringing. In my case my parents always told me I could do anything I wanted. I told my mom I wanted to be a rapper as a youth and she just smiled and said, “baby just be the best rapper you can be!” And before long I had music out, had performed on stages, even learned to produce music and mix/master music as well. They complimented my art daily. So that my drawings got better each year. I got a full scholarship to attend college because of it thus launching my career as a creative. So as I look back to the root of confidence, I link confidence to key people in out lives that support our actions whether positive or negative. If we are made to feel invincible in any industry we will overcome many obstacles and find a measure of success. If you are a leader, find someone with low confidence and give them this gift. Spend time to find out what they are good at. Help them identify, learn and train on a gift. Tell them they can be and do anything! Tell them this over and over again and give them time. Plant a seed and watch it grow….  #8robinsons #rootedinlove